|1. What is the Nakoudo (matchmaker or go-between)?|
|2. The manner of Omiai.|
|3. Yuinou (betrothal presents) and marriage.|
|What is the Nakoudo (matchmaker or go-between)?|
Nakoudo (matchmaker) is the person that contract
a marriage between the man and woman who hope to
marry. First of all, the matchmaker
hands to both parties "the personal information form"
and "the photograph". The photograph was taken to
be given to a matchmaker.When you participate in the Omiai,
you have to prepare "personal information form"
In the personal information form, the following items are described. 1.Name.
2.Date of birth.
(The height and weight might be described. )
10.The family's introduction.When both of the man and woman like the other one, the matchmaker will set "the meeting with a view to marriage". That is called Omiai.
|The manner of Omiai.|
|In this chapter, we explain "Omiai"
of the type that the go-between takes care of.
Special private room at the hotel, private room
of restaurant, go-between's home, man's home, or
woman's home are used as place of Omiai. The go-between
reserves the hall and gets a room.
(1)Go-between, (2)man and his attendant, (3)woman and her attendant. The above-mentioned people gather in the meeting place. "Nakoudo(Go-betweens)" arrive at the meeting with a view to marriage place most first. When persons concerned arrive, the Nakoudo(matchmaker or go-between) receives it standing from the seat. The Nakoudo decides on seating plan. So, the Nakoudo show the persons into their seat. First of all, the go-between introduces the woman to the man. Next, the man is introduced to the woman. There are some rules on that day.
For instance... They doesn't boast about the relative.
Neither about past love's memories nor the number of past lovers are heard.
They doesn't hear other party's income and academic background.
The story of thought, politics, and the religion is not told. Finally, the matchmaker makes the time about which only two person (the man and woman) who hopes for the marriage talks. The most important concern is whether he or she want to associate with the other party. The answer is not told directly to the other party, but told the go-between.
|Yuinou (betrothal presents) and marriage.|
|When both parties of the man and woman
determine the marriage, the matchmaker attends "Yuinou
(Betrothal presents)" and "Wedding". "Yuinou" is a ceremony that
two houses get engaged to marry.
"Yuinou" is translated to "Betrothal presents". But, actually, I think that the meaning of "promise" to marriage is closer than "present". The betrothal presents goods are passed to bride's house as proof of the engagement by bridegroom's house. Goods of betrothal presents are received by bride's house. Bride or her father say, "We accept your offer forever". A detailed custom of Yuinou is different according to the locality. The engagement was approved by this. The next ceremony is wedding.The machmaker attends the wedding.
And, in the reception, the matchmaker annnounces the person present the marriage of bride and bridegroom was completed. In addition, the matchmaker introduces about bride's and bridegroom's careers, characters, and "the beginning of their romances",etc. to the person present.